"Responding Right When Treated Wrongly"
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Proposition - Life doesn’t always feel fair. People misunderstand you, talk about you, and sometimes treat you wrongly. In 2 Samuel 16, David is at one of the lowest points of his life—running from his own son Absalom. In the middle of that pain, we see how a godly person responds under pressure.
Interrogative Question - In what ways can you prepare yourself to handle criticism when trying to do what is right?
Beware of Selfish Motives - vs. 1–4
Beware of Selfish Motives - vs. 1–4
1 Now when David had passed a little beyond the summit, behold, Ziba the servant of Mephibosheth met him with a couple of saddled donkeys, and on them were two hundred loaves of bread, a hundred clusters of raisins, a hundred summer fruits, and a jug of wine. 2 The king said to Ziba, “Why do you have these?” And Ziba said, “The donkeys are for the king’s household to ride, and the bread and summer fruit for the young men to eat, and the wine, for whoever is faint in the wilderness to drink.” 3 Then the king said, “And where is your master’s son?” And Ziba said to the king, “Behold, he is staying in Jerusalem, for he said, ‘Today the house of Israel will restore the kingdom of my father to me.’ ” 4 So the king said to Ziba, “Behold, all that belongs to Mephibosheth is yours.” And Ziba said, “I prostrate myself; let me find favor in your sight, O my lord, the king!”
Ziba comes to David with supplies—but with a hidden agenda.
Ziba appears helpful, but he lies about Mephibosheth to gain favor and position. David, in a moment of weakness, believes him without full investigation.
Not everyone who helps you has pure motives. Some people serve themselves, not God.
Illustration:
A student offers to “help” you with homework—but really just wants answers so they don’t have to work. Their kindness is actually selfishness.
Don’t be easily swayed by what people say.
Learn to discern motives.
Be careful making quick judgments about others.
Expect Persecution as believers - vs. 5–8
Expect Persecution as believers - vs. 5–8
5 When King David came to Bahurim, behold, there came out from there a man of the family of the house of Saul whose name was Shimei, the son of Gera; he came out cursing continually as he came. 6 He threw stones at David and at all the servants of King David; and all the people and all the mighty men were at his right hand and at his left. 7 Thus Shimei said when he cursed, “Get out, get out, you man of bloodshed, and worthless fellow! 8 “The Lord has returned upon you all the bloodshed of the house of Saul, in whose place you have reigned; and the Lord has given the kingdom into the hand of your son Absalom. And behold, you are taken in your own evil, for you are a man of bloodshed!”
Shimei curses David and throws stones at him.
David is already hurting—and now someone publicly attacks him, accusing him falsely.
Lesson:
Even when you’re doing right, people may still criticize you.
Illustration:
You try to live for God at school, and instead of respect, people mock you or spread rumors about you.
Don’t be surprised when criticism comes.
Following God doesn’t guarantee popularity.
Stay faithful even when misunderstood.
Refuse Revenge and Trust God - vs. 9–12
Refuse Revenge and Trust God - vs. 9–12
9 Then Abishai the son of Zeruiah said to the king, “Why should this dead dog curse my lord the king? Let me go over now and cut off his head.” 10 But the king said, “What have I to do with you, O sons of Zeruiah? If he curses, and if the Lord has told him, ‘Curse David,’ then who shall say, ‘Why have you done so?’ ” 11 Then David said to Abishai and to all his servants, “Behold, my son who came out from me seeks my life; how much more now this Benjamite? Let him alone and let him curse, for the Lord has told him. 12 “Perhaps the Lord will look on my affliction and return good to me instead of his cursing this day.”
Abishai wants to retaliate—but David refuses.
David could have easily taken revenge, but instead he says, “Let him curse… it may be that the Lord will look on my affliction.”
Lesson:
Godly people don’t take revenge—they trust God to handle it.
Illustration:
Someone insults you online. Instead of firing back, you choose not to respond and leave it in God’s hands.
You don’t have to “clap back” at every insult.
Let God be your defender.
Responding in anger usually makes things worse.
Stay the Course When Life Hurts - vs. 13–14
Stay the Course When Life Hurts - vs. 13–14
13 So David and his men went on the way; and Shimei went along on the hillside parallel with him and as he went he cursed and cast stones and threw dust at him. 14 The king and all the people who were with him arrived weary and he refreshed himself there.
David keeps moving forward despite the abuse.
Shimei continues to curse and throw stones, but David doesn’t stop—he keeps going until he finds rest.
You can’t control what others do—but you can control how you respond.
Illustration:
A runner in a race gets bumped but keeps running instead of quitting. They stay focused on the finish line.
Don’t let others derail your walk with God.
Keep going even when life is hard.
Your focus should be on pleasing God, not people.
Seek Godly Counsel (vv. 20–23)
Seek Godly Counsel (vv. 20–23)
20 Then Absalom said to Ahithophel, “Give your advice. What shall we do?” 21 Ahithophel said to Absalom, “Go in to your father’s concubines, whom he has left to keep the house; then all Israel will hear that you have made yourself odious to your father. The hands of all who are with you will also be strengthened.” 22 So they pitched a tent for Absalom on the roof, and Absalom went in to his father’s concubines in the sight of all Israel. 23 The advice of Ahithophel, which he gave in those days, was as if one inquired of the word of God; so was all the advice of Ahithophel regarded by both David and Absalom.
Ahithophel gives advice that supports rebellion.
Absalom listens to counsel that deepens his sin and rebellion against his father.
The voices you listen to will shape your decisions.
Illustration:
A friend encourages you to break rules or compromise your faith—and you follow their advice, leading to bigger problems.
Choose your influences carefully.
Not all advice is good advice.
Seek counsel that honors God.
Conclusion: Key Truths to Remember
When life goes wrong:
Not everyone has good motives
Criticism will come
Revenge is not your job
Stay steady and keep going
Choose godly influences
SO WHAT?
When you’re mistreated, misunderstood, or attacked—how will you respond?
Will you react like the world… or respond like David?
Choose to trust God, stay faithful, and let Him handle the rest.
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24 Your testimonies also are my delight; They are my counselors.
14 Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory.
22 Without consultation, plans are frustrated, But with many counselors they succeed.
6 For by wise guidance you will wage war, And in abundance of counselors there is victory.
20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.
